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March 16, 2022
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Today I want to talk about the ways in which trans+ people sometimes choose to escape the pressures associated with transition. Some of this may be triggering, especially those who have transitioned with little or no support.


So what are the pressures?

To put it simply, they fall into the categories of:  lack of understanding from others, lack of acceptance from self and/or others, and hate. A lack of knowledge by other people who should have your interests in mind is also a barrier to building resilience. When your GP leans on you for support in what they should do, or the HR people at your workplace don’t know what they need to do with someone who isn’t accepting you in the workplace, you have few places to turn.


One of the biggest issues that trans+ people have is friends and family not accepting them. Without positive support, it is much harder to manage any hate that they experience from strangers and acquaintances. Worse is hate from those who society says should love you unconditionally.


Hate from strangers is never nice for anyone. But when you are also someone who does not know where you can safely turn for help sometimes, it becomes that bit harder. Maybe that small business you duck into to get away from someone shouting abuse at you will be staffed by someone understanding, or maybe they just won’t care, or will ask you to leave.



The escapes?

That’s much easier for me to write. For some people, it’s about pushing through, aiming for passing, or aiming for the self-acceptance you need to build that resilience. For others, it’s trying to not be trans+ in the first place – hiding, shame, and often worsening mental health. There’s a lot of pressure in hiding who you are and pretending to be what others want you to be. Sadly for a minority, it’s suicide. Within my relatively small part of the world this year, I have heard of three suicides by trans+ people that I (or others in my circles) have known.



This is why services such as ours are so important. With support, any trans+ person has a chance to build resilience, acceptance and spend time in a place where they know there is understanding. If you feel affected by anything that I have spoken about in this blog, please reach out for support, speak to someone you can trust, or you can ask for support here.


If you are moved to support us, we would love for you to go here and fill in a volunteering application form.


At the end of this month it’s Trans Day of Visibility – I hope to hear from many of you when we run our event and I’m sure many of you will also give us an extra boost on social media or recommend our blogs to friends and co-workers as your part of being aspiring allies to trans+ people.


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