Have you noticed how much easier it is to ask for something for a person you like? How friendship overcomes so many barriers?
A friend is “a person with whom one has a bond of mutual affection”. Someone you trust and whose responses you can predict. The language of friendship is inclusive: all friends are allies, although not all allies are friends. The word ‘friend’ doesn’t need a qualifier, a justification. Whether or not one is trans+ does not change the amount of affection and support you give and receive for friends
Trans+ allies are often professionals, influencers, and politicians. Many fight for diversity and inclusion tirelessly. These allies might be able to change the world but when you’re feeling low, they’re not going to be the person you message.
The feeling of friendship
You do things for your friends because it makes them happy. Have you noticed you smile more in the company of friends? The science says that is because being in safe, supportive relationships releases endorphins. I just like that it feels nice.
Our friends are our first, and best, allies. Good friends see our strengths and weaknesses, they protect our vulnerabilities. When you are trans+ and you come out you need friends. Everyone needs friends. Friends pick you up when you are sad, they speak for you when you have no words. It’s your best friend who notices when you have been absent on social media for a while and drops you a message.
“The best ally is a friend”
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